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The Do’s and Don’ts of Motherhood: Mom’s To-Do List

Ever since having my son I have done many things that I vowed I would never do. Over the years I have formulated my own version of a to-do list, complete with a companion list of things I will not do. Maybe some of your choices are in line with mine and maybe you are the exact opposite. Either way, as women and mothers we serve ourselves best when laying our own ground rules and sticking to them. Here are a few of my do’s and don’ts for motherhood:

I will:

  • Make plans with a friend I haven’t seen in months.
  • Surprise my husband with coffee in bed. On a weekday.
  • Schedule a family vacation EVERY YEAR, because it is important.
  • Smile at a stranger and look away from the mom in the grocery store with a screaming child.
  • When putting clean laundry away, find at least one thing to donate.
  • Love my mother just as she has always loved me. Unconditionally and without judgement, because she has earned it.
  • Listen to my inner voice and follow my intuition. Self-doubt is not welcome in my life.
  • Compliment my child until those words live and breathe inside his soul and are entrenched in his heart.
  • When the urge to judge others arises, choose love and acceptance instead.
  • Take more photos with my family regardless of what I look like at the moment.
  • Know my limits and respect them. If I don’t, who will?
  • Choose my battles in life and marriage carefully.
  • Hug, kiss, compliment and say ‘I love you’ as much as I can.
  • Not worry about the future, but will do my best to prepare for it.


I will NOT :

  • Agree to a play-date when I know I won’t have the energy or patience.
  • Sign up for a meal train for a stranger when all it will bring me is stress and guilt.
  • Adopt an animal without explicit agreement that someone ELSE will take care of it.
  • Wake a sleeping child.
  • Buy a kid white tennis shoes.
  • Complete my kid’s homework for him.
  • Hand make 37 Valentines/Christmas cards for my kid’s class.
  • Let a month go by without spending alone time with my spouse.
  • Let my child’s nap schedule dictate the family schedule.
  • Run to the doctor’s office every time I hear a sniffle.
  • Make my kid wash his hands a million times a day. Hand sanitizer? No thanks. Guess who has a robust immune system? My grubby kid.
  • Freak out when my kid goes to school with jelly all over his face.
  • Let anyone in my family use my expensive face wash and shampoo.
  • Take out the garbage. I will do all the other things, but not that.
  • Feel guilty for using paper plates several nights a week. Spending time with my family means more to me than a spotless kitchen.
  • Put my family above my marriage (or my marriage above family), they both deserve an equal amount of love and attention in order to thrive.

Are your motherhood Do’s and Don’ts similar or different?

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