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The toddlerhood Struggle is Real (and it’s Exhausting!)

The toddlerhood struggle is real, friends. And I am exhausted. I have a toddler, and he seemed to morph into one gradually. He walked at 9 months, but he was still my little baby. Then the melt downs started. In the beginning, they were too cute to worry about. But now he’s 18 months old, and even though he’s still a joy, he has also completely taken over. He. Is. Winning.  

I’ve always been a little bit of a push over, but I when I became a mother, I thought some sort of disciplinarian would kick in.

It did not.

My toddler decided he doesn’t want to sit in his high chair to eat. He screams and kicks when I try. And if I force him he just cries and does not eat. So I fold and sit him on a towel on the couch where he eats his dinner.

And he watches an iPad. Yes, that happened too.

I didn’t want to introduce screens so soon, but my husband (yes, I’m blaming him) thought he might be able to learn from some apps. Cut to my child – obsessed with the iPad. He wants to watch it all the time! My only saving grace is that he usually gets bored with it and does another activity. But when he wants it, there’s no turning back. 

We play educational games and watch trucks on YouTube, but it still seems excessive. However, I can actually get something done when he’s on the iPad. And it’s nice to pee alone or not have him “help” me unload the dishwasher. Luckily, I’m better at saying, “No more iPad.” if he’s watched it for a little bit. But it still breaks my heart when I say no to him.

I guess you could call me a “free range” parent. He only wears shorts and shoes when we go on outings, and he’s pretty much naked the rest of the time. Toddlerhood struggle, am i right? 

I’ve even started taking him to daycare in a diaper because he throws a fit when I try to put clothes on him. So there’s also that. Of course, he’s an angel for other people and puts his clothes on without a fuss. And tonight, I even let him bring his giant truck to bed so he wouldn’t fuss about it. I am too weak to say no, and I wish I could take some power back. 

I can’t bribe my toddler yet. 

He doesn’t like sweets or certain toys that much yet, so the meltdowns when I try to get my way continue. I have nothing on him.  I. Am. Exhausted. 

I know that toddlerhood is just a phase in the grand scheme of life. So I just hold onto all the times when he is the sweetest little boy, hugging and kissing his momma because I am his whole world. I know he is frustrated because he wants to communicate better. That’s what makes him and all the other toddlers out there so much work.

But it’s just a phase,

..right? 

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2 Responses to The toddlerhood Struggle is Real (and it’s Exhausting!)

  1. Courtney July 7, 2018 at 7:55 am #

    I hear ya! Toddlers are so tough, and they know exactly which buttons to push to get their way. It’s so hard, and often heart breaking to stand your ground, but once he can communicate and gets into 2-3 yo territory it could be a tough cycle to break (I have an extremely strong-willed 4yo, and it’s a daily power struggle!). And for your sake, you’re going to want the ability to pull the “because I said so” card when you need it (like a public screaming-crying-running away meltdown).

    It could help to establish what your ideal discipline standards look like. Time outs? Talks? Revoked privileges? I’d suggest working them in slowly and gently until you find what works best for you both. It’s hard to watch them be upset with you, but once he gets more mobile/social/communicative, you’re going to want to pull something from your bag of tricks!!

  2. Rebekah July 8, 2018 at 11:30 pm #

    My toddler is morphing into a preschooler now, potty training was so much harder a month ago. She’s using the toilet on her own (yells for help to make sure she’s fully clean) but the head-butting is in full effect. I find we’re both like Disney princesses after we’ve eaten, before a meal though, reality show family feud. She asks for something, I say “sure, just wait until……..” she clearly stomps her foot and demands said thing, immediately. Sometimes I give her the calm version- not giving her the entertainment of a reaction- and tell her not to yell, inside voice, be a nice girl etc. Other times I’m not that strong and I put her on timeout way away from me because being screamed at the top of the lungs is not the business today.

    That’s all. Thanks for your article.

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